ONCE POSTPARTUM ALWAYS POSTPARTUM
Motherhood is hard. It takes all you can give. It can rub you raw. It can exhaust you in ways you never thought possible. It can make you worry constantly.
BUT there are moments when motherhood is easy. It can also be extremely rewarding. It can make you stronger then you ever imagined. It can persuade your body get used to the new level of normal. It can lessen your worries will someday.
THREE TIPS FOR THRIVING (NOT JUST SURVIVING) IN MOTHERHOOD
I know you don’t want to hear this from some stranger, but, I am here to tell you that this phase will pass. I know how hard it is to feel that when you’re in the trenches (and feeling defeated), looking around for some support… but in all seriousness, this won’t last forever. There will come a day when you sleep again, there will come a day when you aren’t “on” all the time, there will come a day when you can send the kid(s) out to play while you enjoy a HOT cup of coffee.
Allowing yourself to be seen
This one is hard too - acceptance of help. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to accept the help, to go as far as asking for it. What is the worst thing that will happen if you allow someone to do the dishes or the laundry. Whatever the side effects - what’s the cost of not asking, not allowing it? What is the cost of not expressing how you REALLY feel?
You are not s super hero for doing this all of your own, you are a hero is you are vulnerable enough to ask for support.
Find something you love to do and DO IT
I was told once, that if you go back to doing the things you loved when you were 12 years old, that is where your true passion really lies. Feeling empowered to start sewing, making bracelets, journaling, joining a sports team, going for walks or spending time with animals? These are not silly notions - it is essential to do the things you love in order to lead a fulfilling life. PLUS, your kids will survive while you take care of yourself by doing these activities!
Until next time,
IMAGINE expressing your true feelings about being a mom. Being creative for yourself (not for your kids, though that’s good too) in order to enhance your well-being and emotional health. For your own expression, for your own benefit, for your own release.
Connect with Kayla today if you’re looking for support.