HOW TO SILENCE YOUR INNER CRITIC
WE ALL HAVE AN INNER CRITIC… DOES YOURS HAVE A NAME?
This voice is formed at an early age - you may not even be able to differenciate between your own authentic thoughts and those of your inner critic.
YOUR inner critic voice might shout things at you, “Your boss hates you, you are not producing enough results, you will never be praised for your efforts. You are not good enough”
YOUR inner critic voice might be making noise in your relationships, “He/she doesn't really even like you. It will never last. Don’t be vulnerable. Be mad at them. It’s all their fault”
YOUR inner critic voice might be consistently telling you that you aren't GOOD enough.
So then, how do we silence it? How do we tell ourselves we are "good enough"?
WATCH THE VIDEO BELOW AND DOWNLOAD THIS WORKSHEET TO HELP TO CHANGE YOUR INNER DIALOGUE.
After walking yourself through this exercise you will come out the other side being gentler on yourself and your thoughts.
Three ways to silence your inner critic:
"Check-in" with your inner critic every once and a while.
Reflect on how this inner voice effects your own self-talk, your self worth & your interpersonal communications.
Acknowledge that this inner voice is separate from your real world view.
This voice and it's phrases are NOT REAL. This dialogue exists solely in your thoughts, and is not a reflection of who you are, how good of a person you are or even what others actually think of you. This voice is something you have internalized based on early life-memories, dialogue & behaviours that you witnessed as a tiny person.
Differentiate from your inner critic.
Write your self-talk down, in "I" statements.
"I am a bad mom. I don't have any patience"
AND THEN FLIP IT
"I am a good mom. I am patient."
This will help you change the internal dialogue, and hopefully start to change the thought process and turn negative self-talk into positive self talk.
In everything I do I am (figuratively) shouting from the roof tops for women to seek out the resources they need (ie. self-help books, finding a therapist, accessing support services, and/or personal coaching). Intrusive negative self-talk is connected to perfectionism, anxiety, and depression.
This expressive art therapy exercise WILL boost your mood, identify some thought patterns and guide you on how to create change within your own life, but please don’t replace these exercises for therapy, personalized care, or individualized advice.
If you are needing more individualized services or to talk this over with a professional, please connect with me. In my private practice I am passionate about holding space for women who are living with stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and depression. I offer a free 30 minute meet + greet to see if I could be the right support person for you. I offer both in-person and virtual therapy sessions.
I believe you are courageous, and if you are someone who is struggling YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DO IT ALONE (oh, please don’t do it alone)! #endthestigma
Until next time, Kayla Huszar