7 reasons NOT to join a mom group and the why you should come anyway
7 reasons NOT to join a new mom support group and the why you should come anyway:
1. I'm too tired
Mama, tell me about it. Who isn't. My son is almost three and we're still up at least once/night. Tiredness doesn't go away, it just gets more manageable.
TRUTH: You can be tired at home OR you can get your butt in the car, grab a latte and maybe, just maybe you'll meet a mama-friend (but, you'll ever find out sitting at home binge watching Netflix).
2. I need a shower, to eat and a shave
Again, who doesn't. Nobody cares. Dry shampoo, grab a bagel on the way and shave tomorrow. Go anyway.
3. But it's nap time
There’s a very short window of time in the beginning when that babe can sleep anytime, anywhere. Maternal mental health and connection are more important than that bit of rest you "might" get staying home.
4. But what if I break down?
TRUTH: Ya, ok, you probably will (the first time). Motherhood is f-ing hard. And you know what? Other moms will be crying too. It will feel so good to release all those pent up feelings.
5. I won't know anyone
Mama, if you're new to the mom game, you won't get to know anyone sitting at home either. Create your village. Find your people.
Ya ok, you won't like everyone - but you can appreciate the process.
Fast forward to the first day if kindergarten... Are you going to keep your kids home just because they "don't know anyone". No, you're going to say "You know what, hun? It might be scary and it's ok to feel a bit upset, but you can do this. I believe in you." Believe in yourself and meet someone new.
6. It's raining, cold, OR too hot (or whatever other excuse you have made for the weather)
People have babies in Alaska. People have babies in India. People have babies in New Zealand (the rainiest place on the planet). You’re MUCH more likely to feel isolated and depressed if you stay home. Grab an umbrella, bundle up (or bundle down) and GET OUTSIDE.
7. Meh, support groups aren't really for me
You need adult conversation. You need to get out of the house. You need to turn off the Netflix and join the world again. Out of the eight moms in the room, you might really connect with one of them. This friendship will be the start of your mom-support network. You will text each other at 3am, meet each others spouses, go on double dates and maybe even go camping when the kids are school age.
If you are a little shy or hesitant to meet new people, when you’re feeling vulnerable–GET TO A MOM GROUP, they are for you. They’re for everyone.
IMAGINE letting go of the barrier you feel to joining a mom group AND embracing a circle of women who will uplift & support you!
Why join a mom support group near you?
Because it’s like free/low cost therapy
Because you’ll find your own kind of moms, creating your own village
Because you can ask the real questions and get honest answers (with the odd f-bomb and some tears too)
Because you will learn from other moms going through the exact same phase of life
Because it’s better then amazon reviews when it comes to all the baby gear
Because you will feel supported by WOMEN, in the way you need to be
Because you need someone to validate the lows, and celebrate the highs of motherhood
Because you need some practical tips for everything mom-ing (like how to not get poop everywhere when changing a squirmy baby)
Because you need some coping techniques for thriving in motherhood
Until next time,
In my private practice in Regina, SK, I am passionate about supporting postpartum moms through therapy (both 1:1 and groups). There are two different expressive art mom groups that I run Mindful Mothering & FLOURISH in motherhood. I also offer a free 30 minute in-person meeting to find out if healing through art therapy is right for you!