Welcome to FLIP THE SCRIPT!
Hey there mama! Y’know the feeling when:
you’re driving after daycare/school drop-off and
the to-do list is running wild and
you wonder if you took the chicken out the freezer for dinner and
that reminds you of the leftovers you forgot to toss out,
which reminds you that you need clean-out your youngest’s backpack (what is that SMELL?!),
which reminds you that the oldest needs new shoes and
suddenly you’re parked with no idea how you got there and
no mental stamina for anything more then sitting and scrolling for a few (twenty minuets). Yeah. That.
What's Really Happening Here?
The endless feedback loop of to-dos, worries, and frustrations as a mom can feel inescapable.
It can make you feel like you're trapped inside your own mind. Like no matter what you do, certain worries, doubts, or frustrations keep running circles in your head on repeat.
Sound familiar?
Here's the thing: those thoughts aren't just random noise. They're patterns. And patterns can be interrupted, questioned, and - yes - flipped.
What FLIP THE SCRIPT Is Really About
This program is about something we all desperately need: finding a way to work with our thoughts without forcing positivity or faking it.
It's not about slapping a smile on your face and pretending everything's fine. It's about:
Noticing the thoughts that are running the show
Questioning whether they're actually true
Gently guiding our minds toward thoughts that don't just protect us from everything, but that actually make sense and serve us
Think of this as a lens adjustment - helping you get a clearer, less distorted picture of what's really happening.
A Kind Reminder for the Overthinkers and Heartfelt Perfectionists Starting Out
Dear overthinkers and perfectionists,
If you're reading this with a bit of side-eye, wondering if this will turn into another deep-dive into your thoughts that you're just too tired for - you're not alone.
Many moms just like you (those who tend to live with high standards, big hearts, and a tendency to replay every detail) feel the same way.
Here's a gentle truth: you're not here to change everything about the way you think, especially not overnight. Because really, that would be yet another unrealistic expectation, and we're done with those.
This is just one way to soften the mental load - even if it's just one tiny reframe or insight at a time.
- Kayla
DISCLAIMER:
Why So Negative? Our Brains and the Art of Self-Sabotage
Here's the deal: Your brain is wired to keep you safe, not necessarily happy.
It's like an overbearing mother who never leaves you alone (ironic, right?).
Back in the day when we were dodging wild animals, this constant vigilance kept us alive. Scanning for danger? Essential. Assuming the worst? A survival skill.
But now? That same hyper-alert brain turns little daily stressors - spilled juice, a forgotten permission slip, a kid's meltdown - into internal monologues that feel intense and overwhelming.
This is where cognitive distortions come in.
What Are Cognitive Distortions?
Cognitive distortions are automatic, untrue patterns of thinking that make small issues feel monumental. They're the reason you can spiral from "I forgot to pack a snack" to "I'm a terrible mother" in about 3.5 seconds.
They exaggerate. They catastrophize. They twist your perception. And they keep you stuck in a cycle of worry, self-doubt, and frustration.
Here's the secret: Just because you think it, doesn't make it true.
These thoughts feel real. They feel urgent. They feel like facts.
But they're actually just brain glitches - leftovers from our survival instincts that were once useful ("Oh no! Rustling in the bushes! Could be a saber-toothed tiger!") but now just make spilled juice feel like the end of the world.
What You'll Gain from This Program
By the end of FLIP THE SCRIPT, my hope is that you will have:
A deeper understanding of how your brain and body influence thought patterns (and why they do what they do)
Practical tools to notice, challenge, and reframe cognitive distortions in real-time
Creative expressions and rituals to support emotional regulation and self-compassion
Greater alignment with your values and a kinder, more compassionate inner dialogue
This isn't about "fixing" yourself. It's about unlearning the patterns that were never yours to carry and giving yourself permission to think differently.
10 Classic Cognitive Distortions (and Why They Still Mess with Moms in 2025)
Your brain is basically an overprotective bodyguard - always scanning for threats, convinced that danger lurks everywhere.
Your toddler throws a tantrum? You're obviously ruining them for life.
You snapped at your kid? They'll need therapy forever.
You forgot to sign the permission slip? Might as well start saving for their inevitable "My Mom Failed Me" memoir.
The thing is, these thoughts aren't facts.
They're cognitive distortions: sneaky (sometimes dark and twisty) automatic patterns of thinking that exaggerate, twist, and catastrophize everyday situations.
These distortions are sneaky because they disguise themselves as truths. But they're really just mental habits that fuel mom guilt, anxiety, and overwhelm.
So let's call them out and start flipping the script.
🗣 Let's Pause for a Sec and Get Real
Before we go any further, grab your journal if you're feeling it (or just sit with these questions for a minute):
Can you think of a recent time one of these distortions crashed your mental party?
What's your take on what's happening in your head with these thoughts?
How do you usually deal with them?
One moment at a time, we'll learn to call them out and flip the script.
Here's what I know: A ton of moms come to me in therapy already painfully aware that their thoughts are messing with them. They're keenly conscious of their own mental loops (and hey, it's totally okay if you're not there yet).
They even know, in theory, what they "should" be doing to feel better... but they can't quite access it.
There's this gap - between knowing and doing, between understanding and embodying.
So here's the real question: What do you think you need to start doing or stop doing to make this better for you?
Sit with that for a moment. No right answers. Just awareness.
What Makes This Different
Here's what I want you to know: A ton of moms come to me in therapy already painfully aware that their thoughts are messing with them. They're keenly conscious of their own mental loops (and hey, it's totally okay if you're not there yet).
They even know, in theory, what they "should" be doing to feel better... but they can't quite access it.
There's a gap between knowing and doing. Between understanding and embodying.
That's where this program comes in.
We're not just going to talk about cognitive distortions. We're going to:
Identify them when they show up in your real life
Understand where they came from and why your brain defaults to them
Practice interrupting them before they take over your whole day
Reframe them without bypassing the real, hard stuff you're feeling
Build a new relationship with your thoughts - one where you're in the driver's seat
This is the bridge between "I know my thoughts are a problem" and "I know how to actually shift them."
Ready to Get Started?
One moment at a time, we're going to learn to call out these distortions and flip the script.
No perfection required. No forced positivity. Just honest, practical tools to help you think more clearly and feel more like yourself again.
Let's do this.
Next up: Let me introduce myself and why I actually get what's happening in your head.
