Somehow that meant becoming a shell of yourself.
You become a mom.
And somewhere along the way, you started to believe that was the job.
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If this sounds like you
"I feel so lost and I don't know how to-"
That sentence doesn't finish. Not because you can't find the words. Because somewhere in the last few years, you stopped expecting it to have an ending.
You love your kids. God, you love your kids. You would do anything for them. You have been doing anything for them. And somewhere in all of that doing - the feeding and the scheduling and the worrying and the showing up - you stopped being a person and became a function.
You're not sad about it exactly. You don't have time to be sad about it. You're too busy making sure everyone else is okay.
But sometimes, in the quiet moments you barely get, you wonder: who even am I now? And the answer is taking longer and longer to come.
Turns out you're still in there. Under the goldfish crackers and the mental load.
Through this work, you can:
Your whole identity is wrapped up in being a good mom. You've built everything around it. And caring this much while knowing this little about what you actually need is a recipe for running on empty forever.
We might be a fit if this sounds familiar.
Is this right for you?
You can't remember what music you actually like. Your own taste. The stuff you'd put on if nobody else was in the car. You scroll past things that used to excite you and feel nothing. You have a rare hour to yourself and you spend it doing something productive because resting feels wrong when there's still so much to do - and because honestly, you don't know what you'd do with it anyway.
When someone asks how you are, you talk about how the kids are doing. When someone asks what you want, you list what the family needs. You've been so deep in the role for so long that you're not sure there's a "you" underneath it anymore.
And the scariest part isn't that you're lost. It's that you've started to think being lost is what makes you a good mom.
What it misses is the belief running underneath all of it - the one that says your worth as a mother is tied to how much of yourself you give away. That self-sacrifice is the proof. That a good mom wouldn't be sitting here wondering who she is anymore.
That belief isn't the truth. But it's been making decisions for you for years. And that's exactly where this work starts.
This work doesn't start with who you want to become. It starts with what's been quietly telling you that you don't get to want things anymore.
This work asks something of you.
Some willingness to grieve what's gone - not just find what's missing. And some willingness to question whether disappearing into motherhood was ever actually the point.
If right now you just need to survive the week, start with the Identity Archaeology Kit and come back.
The work is most useful when you come with some willingness to get curious about your own patterns. The answers can come later. Right now, just the curiosity. For 1:1 sessions, Kayla works with moms in AB, SK, and ON. The freebie and workshop are available anywhere.
In person Leduc, AB | Virtual: AB, SK, ON
Meet your therapist
I'm Kayla Huszar.
I'm a registered social worker - featured in Maclean's Magazine (Apple News Best of 2025) and on CBC's The Current.
I came into motherhood as a Type A, people-pleasing, slightly anxious overachiever on a secret mission to be perceived as a "good and right" mother. I thought that if I just gave enough of myself - enough patience, enough presence, enough sacrifice - I'd finally feel like I was doing it right.
I didn't. I just felt empty.
What actually made me a better mom wasn't trying harder. It was finding myself again. Messy and weird and a bit loud. When I stopped performing good mother and started just being myself, something shifted. For me and for my kids.
That's what shapes how I work.
The next step
If you're feeling drawn to this work, the next step is a free 20-minute conversation.
This is not a sales call.
We'll talk about what you're carrying and figure out together whether working with me makes sense - and if so, where to start.
Regardless of whether we work together, you'll leave with a clearer sense of what your next step is. Sometimes that's working with me. Sometimes it's something else. Either way, you'll know more than you do now.
You've got options
Three Ways to Get Support
Know Who You Are: The 15-Minute Identity Archaeology Kit - Free
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The straightforward guide to remembering who you are underneath all that mom stuff. Download it, do it in the school pickup line, and leave with more clarity than you came with.
The lowest-stakes place to start. Yours immediately, no strings.
True Colors: A 90-Minute Identity Recovery Workshop - coming soon
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For mothers ready to stop Googling "who am I?" and start actually figuring it out. 90 minutes live with Kayla. Available anywhere.
For moms who want to do real work without a long-term commitment.
This is the ongoing work. We meet regularly - weekly or biweekly. In-person in Leduc, AB or virtually across Alberta, Saskatchewan, and Ontario. First session is 90 minutes. After that, 60 minutes. Direct billing available through Telus eClaims.
For moms who are ready to get to the root of it.
Regular Counselling | from $195/session
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From invisible to yourself - to actually knowing what you need.
The shift this work creates
Right now Going through the motions. Calling self-sacrifice good mothering. A quiet flatness. Not knowing what you want because you stopped asking so long ago you forgot the question.
After this work
Knowing what you need. Asking for it. Feeling seen - by yourself first. Mothering from a place that actually has something in it.
The moms who feel best in their mothering aren't the ones who gave the most away. They're the ones who kept enough of themselves to show up.
You know what you need. You just lost access to it. This work is how you find it again.